Monday, 26 September 2016


Self-Love and confidence is always something I have struggled with and I have spoke about it a little bit before when discussing my mental health issues which you can check out HERE if you wish but I wanted to write a full post on this issue as I feel it is still very stigmatised in the Irish culture. I feel that there have been improvements within the Irish culture regarding self love but I definitely think there is still a long way to go to make this issue more of a priority for everyone.

 A lot of people give out and 'bitch' about confident people calling them cocky and saying things like 'oh that one loves herself too much'. Now I do appreciate that their are cocky people out there but there is definitely a difference between cockiness and confidence and this is all too often mixed up by people.

I honestly really admire confident people as it is all too easy to have your confidence knocked in today's society. I, myself will admit the biggest cause of my lack of confidence comes from myself. I am by far my own worst critic, I can literally point of a flaw with every aspect of myself as a person both physically and non-physically, I can honestly say there would be a lot times I'd be sitting there thinking I actually hate myself. I know a lot of you might be thinking while reading this 'she has a blog and has endless amounts of pictures of herself on display, how can she say she's not confident?'. My answer to that is my blog is something that I adore working on and is the only thing that I am sure that I want to continue with in the future so I am willing to step out of my comfort zone for it. I'm still not at all fully confident in myself as a blogger but finding this thing that makes me happy has definitely set me up in the right direction for finding confidence and learning to love myself.

So the reason I am writing this post is not just to share my story but it is to let you all know how important self love is.

Not loving yourself and having a negative mindset towards yourself can have such a bad effect on your mental health which I know all too well. Also if you do struggle with your mental health it is not a reason to dislike yourself. I know how hard it can be to accept a mental health issue and to accept that it is part of who you are but it doesn't make you any less of a person than anyone else. Nearly everybody will struggle with their mental health at some stage so you are definitely not alone or abnormal because of who you are.

In today's society is is definitely a struggle to also accept yourself physically. I know this statement is reiterated time and time again but you must remember 'Instagram is not Real Life'. I myself will admit that I know how to take selfies in a way that flatters me the most and I definitely don't look like how I do on my Instagram feed a lot of the time. Please bear this in mind when scrolling down your Instagram timelines wishing you looked like her or him. Instagram is a visually appealing social media platform so of course we are all going to show our best features when we can. I feel girls especially struggle with this because we all want to look a certain way and because of this I have noticed that every girl is beginning to look the same on social media. I'm guilty of wanting to look like certain celebrities and criticising every aspect of my own physical appearance because of this, but what we all need to remember is that we see flaws on ourselves that other people see as beautiful features, embrace your own beauty.

Here are some little tips that I need to take into consideration and hopefully you will too on the journey to loving yourself:

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are amazing in your own way.

2. Take time for yourself to do something that you enjoy and that may be doing absolutely nothing, as long as you enjoy it, take the time to do it and don't feel bad about it.

3. Pamper yourself, some people may find this superficial but I always feel better when I take the time to indulge with beauty products so this step is definitely worth a try.

4. Do more of what makes you happy and don't listen to any negative comments in regards to this, as long as you're happy that's all that matters.

5. Don't be afraid to treat yourself with little or big gifts from you to you, you deserve them.

6. Listen to compliments from others and don't disregard them, believe them! But also realise that you are the only reassurance you need so don't be afraid to compliment yourself whether it's out loud or in your mind.

7. Learn to be comfortable in your own presence and don't feel the need to be surrounded by people all the time.

8. Care less about what others think.

9. Disregard toxic people from your life.

10. Surround yourself with like minded, positive people and avoid those that tend to talk others down.

I really hope you took even something small from this blog post and please do let me know if you'd like to see some more similar posts.

Love Shóna xo



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